Now is the time of year when companies, businesses, friends, etc. are hosting "New Years Resolution" workshops, classes, and gatherings. Now is the time when we reflect on 2018, what we did, what we didn't do, and what we desire to accomplish in 2019 come midnight, January 1st. The energy in the air is that of excitement, novelty, and motivation.
In fact, I recently attended an intention setting class with a few colleagues of mine just last week. I felt this playful, inspiring energy moving through me as I wrote down exactly what I wanted to achieve this new year.
So - how long do you think that energy is going to last? Until Jan 10th? Until Feb 10th? MAYBE even until March or April?
I call it the "Honeymoon Effect." Similar to when you're in a new relationship, everything is NEW, FRESH, and exciting! Your brain LOVES new things, my friends. However, unless you consistently remind yourself of that initial, deeper WHY behind your actions, goals, etc. (you know…that warm, exciting rush of energy you got when you first said YES to your partner OR started thinking about all the cool things you want to do this upcoming year), that motivation will fizzle. Period.
So how DO you hit your goals in 2019?
My dear colleague and professional TRANSFORMATION coach, Betsy Koepke, laid it out so brilliantly at her latest workshop (check out her amazing work here).
Everything we desire in life begins with our WHY, sprinkled with our core foundational beliefs.
To put it simply, to help be consistent in reaching our goals throughout ALL of 2019, we MUST remember WHY we MUST achieve the goals in the first place. AND we must remember the PAIN of NOT achieving them as well as the PLEASURE we will experience when we do.
What do I mean by WHY?
Take your family or kids for example…how will they be impacted if you reach your goals? How about your career? Your physical body…what is the FEELING you experience when you imagine reaching your goals? How does it feel when you imagine NOT hitting your goals?
Turn your goals from a WANT into a MUST - this can make a tremendous difference during those moments when doubt creeps in, you’re tempted by others around you, you want to hit the snooze button, or you’re simply losing internal motivation. Remember that pain/pleasure FEELING and practice that FEELING daily.
Whether you are conscious of them or not, beliefs about yourself dictate your life. YUP. Let’s be honest - we all know what it takes to be healthy. It’s pretty simple - eating real foods, avoiding sugar, sleeping 6-8 hours a night, drinking plenty of water, moving/exercising often, keeping your body in alignment, etc.
And yet….we STILL don’t do it…WHY? That which is simple to do is also simple NOT to do.
The deeper reason? Because we don’t truly BELIEVE we can. Our subconscious mind runs deeper thoughts and beliefs that have been engrained in us since childhood - maybe that we are not worthy of ridiculous financial abundance OR that we do not deserve the marriage of our dreams. Perhaps we tell ourselves how much we dislike our body or look in the mirror and say “Yeah, right.”
Think about it…if you are constantly telling yourself these kinds of beliefs, imagine the types of actions you’ll take (or NOT take, for that matter). ACTION follows BELIEF. A person who BELIEVES they are strong, confident, successful, worth, and abundant WILL take action that aligns with such beliefs in order to help our nervous system feel a sense of congruency with reality. Our brains are always working to match our outer world with our inner experience.
Changing your inner beliefs and dialogue
My dear coach Dr. Lacey Book, taught me this one powerful strategy that has helped me shift my entire belief system (it’s still a daily practice, by the way).
For every negative belief you have about yourself, write down the exact opposite of that belief.
For example, match the belief of “I hate my body, I’m never going to lose weight,” to instead, “My body is getting healthier and healthier every day. I LOVE giving my body what it needs to be more vital and whole.”
A key point here is to write it out in the PRESENT tense. That way, you affirm to your brain that it’s happening right now. Repeat these mantras and new beliefs day in and day out and I promise you, your ACTIONS will change.Read More